I give myself very good advice, but I rarely seem to follow it.
I often know what to say. I'm actually really proud of the way that I deal with the emotions and feelings of others. I like to think of myself as a friend that is good at giving advice, and good at listening- something that people want to be associated with, right? I think that I thank my mum for this because she is a wonderful advice giver (thank you Susan.)
I like helping people out and I like talking about emotions because I think that they're incredibly important and incredibly powerful (in both good and bad ways.) I like to think of myself as an individual that is quite capable at responding to negativity and giving solutions to internal problems. I've read a lot and listened a lot and I believe that listening to other people talk about how they feel is really beneficial. It's the loveliest thing to know that you are not locked up alone with all your crazy emotions, and that actually there are plenty of other human beings that feel just as deeply as you do.
I've kinda noticed though, that advice givers are not so good at listening to themselves. I (would assume) that people would think that I'm an extremely secure and comfortable human being, simply because I blurt out my thoughts often and try to order them into some form of logical conclusion. It's true, I do this largely for my own benefit, and stringing out words so that they don't merely sit in your brain like muddy puddles of mess really is very helpful (I recommend it so hugely). It's just a shame that I often don't really listen to what I'm saying. Actually scrap that, I do, but I just find it extraordinarily difficult to apply.
I didn't really properly realise that giving advice doesn't automatically solve people's problems. That is until I looked at myself and realised that a lot of the time, even though I am very much aware of what I should be doing (smiling despite the acne, not being frightened of light, eating because I feel hungry, feeling worthy of conversation with strangers), that doesn't necessarily mean that I'll do it. Not at all.
It all seems very basic and pretty simple until it applies to you personally. Because emotions are incredibly powerful, and brains can make you think things that are totally irrational. Knowing that you should love your face is very different to actually loving your face.
The trouble is, thoughts are difficult to kill- once a thought is present, removing it is tricky. Like, really tricky. And some thoughts need killing. Because some thoughts are stupid and irrational and dictating and should not be allowed to be present within your head. I think that it's all about the journey and people (including myself) need to remember that eventually, you will love your face (or talk to a stranger, or eat a whole cake, or open your curtains or join something new and exciting), and that you just have to work on tiny little steps that will help you get there. In a StylelikeU video somebody mentioned something along the lines of 'happiness is a journey, not a destination' which sounds cheesy as hell, but equally wonderful.
So, I guess I'm saying that we should focus on killing some bad thoughts. Or at least stamping on them a little, so that we can't hear them shouting at us so loudly all the time. You can't trust always trust your thoughts (weird, huh?) and if they're telling you bad things about yourself, they're probably wrong.
So I'm going to try and be better at taking my own advice. I think it'll be better that way. You should probably try it too.
Smile babes xxx
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